Family Caregivers: Talking With Physicians
There are lots of caregivers who are placed in a role in which they are unprepared. Meeting with medical professionals can be intimidating, as we are living in a society that thinks doctors in white coats are seen beyond reproach and are sometimes unapproachable. But as all family caregivers know, it is their job to ensure that the family member’s needs are seen to, that person depends on their advocacy. Patients and senior care caregivers often feel that physicians and medical professionals are too busy to “hear” their concerns. Below are a few tips to make sure you get the most out of your doctor’s visits.
Before Your Appointment - Remember to be prepared and have detailed and important information for your doctor. For example, ” My father hasn’t been feeling well ” is not as easy for a doctor to assess as ” my father has had a fever for two days that was over 100°F. He also has had tingling sensations in his left leg for four hours. “
Always keep a list of all health concerns and then put them in order of importance. This list will help you bring up any home care issues, and keep both you and your physician focused on what matters to you.
During Your Appointment - Pay attention. The likelihood that you will retain everything that the doctor explains to you, especially if it isn’t good news, is slim. Help yourself recall the information your physician tells you by using the 3 R’s: record, write or rope in a relative or friend. Take notes during the conversation or directly after, when information is fresh in your mind. Taking a small tape or digital recorder with you can also be helpful. Having another set of ears listening may also help you decipher the full meaning of the information later on. Ask for clarification when a term or concept doesn’t make sense to you.
Specialists sometimes use a lot of medical jargon. Make sure you are effectively communicating. Doctors often are very busy people. Listen to what they are saying. Don’t waste anyone’s time, including your own, by rambling on in conversation. Make certain they know your feelings, a doctor can only guess until you say something. Both doctors and caregivers are in the business of helping people. Go in prepared to make sure you get the most out of the experience, and keep in mind that you came to provide long term care to another person.